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Hungarians and babies

I guess I have said before that Hungarians are not the most friendly people in the world. In case I haven’t said or you have missed that post I would like to let you know that in general speaking strangers -I’m not talking about friends and family- do not smile at you, are not fond of following courtesy rules (keep your right when walking or using stairs, give their sit up to elderly, pregnant women, etc.). However, the connection between Hungarians and babies or the reaction Hungarian have when they see a baby it is quite amazing.

I have not clue why people go super friendly and very helpful when they see you with a baby. It is like being in another city or maybe in another country. People step aside, offer me their help to get in the tram, they even hold the door for us at some public buildings so we can come in without struggling. One thing is clear to me, their kindness is not towards me, it is towards the little human been sitting in the buggy or resting in my arms. Which is nice but still annoys me a little bit to know that people are not nice to each other when there is not baby involved, and it annoys me even more now I know they could do so if they would like to.

Pinterest via Carmela Fisher

Pinterest via Carmela Fisher

I have been trying to understand why people here need to talk to you and come close to baby, sometimes they just come and start talking to my daughter and grab her hands of feet without even ask for my permission. But I don’t take it badly. I know they mean well. I suppose they do not have grandchildren of their own or they couldn’t have any kids, or maybe they have an idealized memory of their own childhood and that make them jump of happiness when they spot a baby. A friend of mine (a foreigner as well) thinks it is because people don’t have that many kids like in Latin America, therefore seeing a baby here it is truly “the big deal”. Whether she is right or not I haven’t seen anyone being so kind toward mothers with kids after 3 years old. Ergo I wonder for how long I would be able to enjoy living in this “smiling world”. I have the feeling that once my little girl start talking the charm will be gone. But let’s enjoy the present and the good weather, let’s go out more than ever!

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2 Responses
  • Noni de Con M de Mamá
    julio 13, 2013

    Hahahah! I liked this post a lot!
    It is always fun to learn about other cultures, at least for me, and in this case: This is quite strange! Isn’t it?
    Well, maybe not that much if you think that, nowadays, the rhythm of life we normally take doesn’t give us the opportunity of paying attention or being kind to people, i mean, in general. There are always nice people who look at you with a smile, not waiting for you to smile back.
    And the thing is, that changes if we talk about a baby involved in the “meeting a neighbour/stranger” moment, because almost everybody has a smile or a few kind words to your baby (not to you).
    In Spain, people is nice, in general, when you asked for help to get to a place and so, but not when you are pregnant or old and need a place in a public transport, I can tell you!
    Thanks for telling and sharing!
    Big hug!

    • madrexilio
      julio 13, 2013

      I’m glad you liked it! It’s hard to say it loud but people seem to love babies more than kids and more than grownups… I think it is because they cannot say: “Leave me alone” or “I don’t like this or that”.

      A big hug
      xx

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